We can’t help but fall in love with the power of Forgiveness.

What is forgiveness

Forgiveness is a difficult concept to grasp. When we forgive something too quickly, it doesn’t stay forgotten. Things we refuse to forget accumulate and contaminate our minds. Even though forgiving is difficult, it is necessary. It brings the cycle to an end.

Sorrowing, digesting emotions, and selecting what meaning to give to our lives are all part of the process. Thus, forgiving is a variety of experiences, and lastly, letting go. Only by doing so will you be able to let go.

Forgiveness is defined as the intentional, deliberate move to let go of sentiments of bitterness or anger toward a person or group who has wronged you, whether or not they deserve it.

Understanding what forgiveness is not is just as crucial as defining what forgiveness is not. Experts who research or teach forgiveness make it clear that forgiving does not mean ignoring or downplaying the gravity of an offence committed against you. Forgiveness does not imply forgetting or accepting, or excusing wrongdoing.

Forgiving can be very challenging when someone has done a significant action against us. Most people, however, make the error of assuming that forgiveness is for the good of the other. In reality, forgiveness has less to do with the person who receives forgiveness and more to do with the forgiving person. Forgiveness does not absolve the guilty, nor does it absolve the culprit. It allows us to flourish by granting us freedom.

Why is forgiveness a virtue

The energy we carry gives birth to all we accomplish and experience in life. People and situations present up in response to the energy calls we send out, both consciously and unconsciously. Many of us believe that what happens to us causes us to become better people. 

Forgiveness is concerned with how we feel or think about others as much as ourselves. How do those thoughts emerge as energy in our life? Every emotion has a name. Because each idea we have generates energy, it has its origin in thinking. If at all possible, remove the notion, and the underlying emotion will arise. As a result, All through this practice of forgiveness, we are compassionate of our thoughts.

Forgiveness is for self as much as it is for others.

Many of us have to make difficult decisions in order to heal emotionally and physically and live more fulfilling lives. Some of us are divorced, lost long-term relationships with friends or family, and revealed secrets that have had severe ramifications. We can’t accomplish it if we’re holding ourselves back and trapped due to a lack of forgiveness.

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When we hold a grudge against someone else, we do the same on ourselves. In other words, when people do things that seem inappropriate or unpleasant to us, it can be seen as a sign that we are acting insensitively or unkindly toward ourselves. Why would we respond so strongly to someone else’s carelessness if we didn’t have to? We have the option of blaming or enraging the other person, or we can use the event to further our own growth and recovery. When we choose to thank someone for the lesson, they show us and reply to them with peace, and we decide to move forward in joy rather than resentment. This makes us feel confident about ourselves.


The goals of forgiving-

Forgiveness acts as a remedy to emotional disruption by eliminating bitter thoughts and sentiments. It doesn’t provide us with a short relief from blaming and judgement. Instead, it removes them from our self-talk. When we forgive someone (which is often necessary), we dismiss any grudges we have against a person and ourselves. We are no longer burdened by it, and we can move forward with a clear path. It provides-

1. To cure mental distress by compassionately applying flexibility in the situation.

2. To balance inner unrest by letting go of judgement and embracing the peace that is our actual essence.

3. To aid in the development of forgiveness as a constructive habit that may be practised as we become more conscious of our biases.

4. To acknowledge that we are deserving and that our fundamental nature is kindness.


“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” —Buddha.

Forgiveness clears the mind and heart, dispels past patterns and beliefs, and increases our possibilities of receiving without effort. Forgive everyone and allow yourself to get more than you’ve ever imagined, believed or dreamed about being able to achieve.

What does it take to forgive


It’s helpful to remember that forgiving needs strength, and courage comes from compassion when working toward forgiveness.

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Change needs guts. We need to face the truth of our circumstance (by confessing to and accepting her suffering) in order to shift from blaming to compassion. This happens by changing the context of what has been happening to us. Rather than focusing on who was to blame, we need to redirect our attention to loving ourselves. We deserve to work in an environment where we feel encouraged and can thrive. 


Empathy might help you develop a forgiving mindset. Scientists researched what happens in the brain when we consider forgiveness. They discovered that when people rightly visualize forgiving someone, their neural pathways responsible for empathy exhibit higher activity. This indicates that empathy is linked to forgiveness and is a crucial phase in the process.

Compassionate self/ self-forgiveness

To be forgiven by self-

1. A person must first admit that she was the one who caused the problem.

2. Apologies for her actions (by admitting they were wrong) and for herself as the perpetrator.

3. Show regret to the hurt for causing this particular injury to her.

4. Resolve to become the type of person who does not cause injury and demonstrate this dedication through actions and speech.

5. Demonstrate that she understands the injury’s impact from the injured person’s perspective.

6. Provide a narrative explanation of how she came to do wrong, how her transgression does not reflect her entire personality, and how she is growing into someone worthy of praise.


 This work can be done in the morning or right before bedtime. 

  1. Start by meditating for at least 5 minutes. 
  2. Gratitude- Speak it three times-

    “Dear Lord, I thank You for the power of forgiveness, and I choose to forgive everyone who has hurt me. Help me set [name anyone who has offended you] free and release them to You [Romans 12:19]. Help me bless those who have hurt me [Romans 12:14]. Help me walk in righteousness, peace, and joy, demonstrating Your life here on earth. I choose to be kind and compassionate, forgiving others, just as You forgave me [Ephesians 4:32]. In Jesus’ name, amen.”– Debbie Przybylski

  3. Remember to go through your emotions after reciting the prayer. Get ready to go into your subconscious. Allow yourself to be completely honest with yourself about yourself.
  4. Write and complete each of the 10 Forgiveness Statements in your journal. Fill in the blanks with your most heartfelt idea or memory each time you create a Forgiveness Statement to gain access to your innermost thoughts and beliefs.
  5. Consciously process your thoughts and feelings. Allow yourself time and freedom to experience any opinions or thoughts that arise as you work through into forgiveness process. Experience the freedom.
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What if I’m unable to forgive someone?

Forgiveness can be difficult, especially if the person wronged you refuses to accept their mistake. If you get stuck, try the following. Empathy should be practised.

  • Consider the problem from the perspective of the other person.
  • Consider why they might act in this manner.
  • If you were in the same situation, you might have reacted similarly.
  • Consider occasions when you have wounded others and those who have forgiven you.
  • Start writing in a diary, pray, or practise guided meditation — or speak with someone you’ve found to be wise and caring, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or a trusted loved one or friend.
  • Be mindful that forgiveness is a journey, and even minor grudges may necessitate it.

Forgive, rise above it; it is easy

Believe you’re able to forgive

Forgive, not because you cannot fight

Believe, but that you deserve peace

Forgive, why hold the burden of a grudge

Believe in the infinite doors of compassion and love.

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